F.O.F

I’m having a deep session of F.O.F today.

It’s been in the back of my mind for months now, maybe even years. It’s been the one thing that holds me back in a lot of my everyday endeavours.

What is F.O.F? Well I’m glad you asked. F.O.F stands for Fear Of Failure. It’s that tiny nagging voice that crawls up from the dark recesses of the furthest, deepest corner of the mind. It spreads doubt and fear of everything you try to think of, create , or do. It tries to make you believe you aren’t good enough. It crops up at the worst of times, asking the doubting questions and attempting to extinguish any spark or flame you may be trying to ignite within your soul.

At the best of times it can feel like a road block or wall has been built right in the middle of the path to your dream. At the worst of times, it can feel like chains around your neck, wrists, and ankles. The chains haul you down under the water, trying to drown out any thought of doing something new and exciting.

F.O.F will say why try that? No one is going to want to see it anyway. No one will want to hear what you have to say. You aren’t important enough to even be thinking of that.

You need to stamp that voice out.

Don’t listen to that voice, because if you do… you’ll never experience any of the beauty life has to offer.

There will always be people who want to hear what you have to say, and want to see what you have to bring to the table.

You Are Important!

You have been placed on this Earth to do great things. Destiny has a way for you.

You may not see it right now… but you will find your path.

Let your light shine, and don’t let a single person try to dull you out.

You Are Beautiful inside and out!

Besides what so wrong with failure?

If you fail at one thing, it’s just the opportunity to try something new, or try again till you get it right. Don’t let failure hold you back.

In the words of Rachel Hollis:

“You were Made for More”

Wednesday Wisdom! I’m back!

First off I need to apologize for my little hiatus I’ve taken for the past couple weeks. Life threw me for a loop and knocked me down.

Now I am back fiercer than ever and with a clearer vision of where I want to to from here.

Self doubt creeped in and reared its ugly head once again, and my mind became a dark place where every bad thought took over and I lost belief in what I could and will accomplish.

Once in a while life i gonna throw a curve at you or knock you down completely. The main point that you need to take away from all of this is;

It’s ok to fall down,

It’s ok to fail,

It’s ok to get knocked down,

But please get back up, come back stronger than ever before. Show the world that you won’t stay down.

You Are Loved.

It’s ok to cry…

Some days can be overwhelming.

It’s ok to cry.

Some days you may feel like you’ve hit a brick wall.

It’s ok to cry.

Some days everyone just knows the right buttons to push.

It’s ok to cry.

Some days can be the best days of your life.

It’s ok to cry.

Some days you can make a mountain out of a mole hill.

It’s ok to cry.

Some days the littlest thing can throw everything out of whack.

It’s ok to cry.

If you ever feel the emotions of everyday life getting to be too much, its ok to just let the tears flow. The important thing is that you don’t let whatever negativity that is affecting you get you down. Wipe the tears from your eyes and know that this moment isn’t forever, and things will get better. Don’t keep your emotions bottled up to fester and rot. That is only going to hurt you. If you need to talk to someone to talk thing through, by all means, find that someone, but if you cant find anyone contact me. I’ll listen. We all need someone we can turn to.

Summertime Woes

Have you ever had the type of morning where everything seems to be overwhelming?

The housework?

The Kids?

The bills?

The pets?

Did I mention housework?

The dishes have piled up, the living room looks like a tornado hit, because god forbid the kids play with their toys in their bedroom.

Laundry is piled up in several different places. The clean clothes haven’t been folded from two days ago yet, because well it’s summer and the kids demand your attention. You have opted out of cleaning to make memories with your children. You’ve taken them to the park, the beach, a road trip, visiting family or friends. Whatever the case may be, you are not a bad parent.

I have had to have this mantra in my head for a while now. “I am not a bad mom”, it replays in my head like a broken record. When I look around my house and see its destruction, I have to remind myself that my kids are happy, fed, and semi clean. That’s what matters. In the end, when they grow up, they won’t remember the clean house, the bare counter top or the sparkling floors. They will remember the fun times we had picking up sea shells at the beach. They will remember chasing mommy and daddy with the water guns in the back yard. That is what matters. Interacting with them and showing them how to relax and that it’s ok to have fun. They don’t need to see a stressed out mom or dad, they are kids. We need to let them be kids, and help them be kids, before it’s too late and this time has past us by.

That’s why today is my clean up day. They are being relatively good playing with each other so I can get the house work done and be able to play with them again.

Have a happy Tuesday all, we are in this together and we will get through these years.

Enjoy the time while you can😎☀️☺️

This Journey.

So instead of naming this my Monday motivational, which lets be honest the title is getting boring, I switched it up a bit.

Today, I want to touch on the subject of comfort zones. I just stepped out of mine. I have been trying to get my YouTube channel up and running for sometime now. I’ve always come up with some excuse as to not upload a video, and today I finally got sick of it. I have been picking myself apart for too long. I always seem to find something wrong with myself and surrounding, to the point I am never happy with the finished product. So, today I have decided to change all of that and step out of my comfort zone, and upload that video, and continue to upload videos weekly. I am sick of worrying about what everyone thinks of me. If someone likes my face, great, if not, move on.

I’m tired of worrying about everything. I am so very tired of trying to make everyone happy. It is so emotionally draining. I don’t have that much energy as it is. So, I’ve decided to stop wasting my time and energy on the things that truly don’t matter, and spend more time focusing on the things that do. #1: My children, #2: My Blog, #3: My YouTube channel. My children are the reason I get up everyday, and the rest is just my fun me time.

I think it does people good to step out of their comfort zones. It certainly sheds a lot of unneeded stress and anxiety from situations.

“My philosophy is that worrying means you suffer twice.” Newt Scamander

Much love on this Monday.